Monthly Archives: May 2015

Celebrations of Our Own

Engagement

Sometimes our celebrations are our very own days, very personal to us or to our families. On the 29th of May in 1949, two good looking kids tied the knot at St. Blaise Church in Brooklyn, New York. Those are my folks, and tonight we’ll be celebrating their 66th wedding anniversary. We’ll celebrate as has been our custom for the past seven years: with dinner at Rhythm Café in West Palm Beach, where, sometimes after dessert, Ken or Dennis will turn on the mirrored disco ball and urge Millie and John to get up and dance.

Legend has it that back in 1949, this event almost didn’t even happen because of a big fight. It had something to do with a jar of mustard the day before the wedding. But they got past the Mustard Incident and here we are 66 years later.

We all have these red letter days: birthdays, anniversaries, and we celebrate them in our own ways and that is one thing that’s so special about them. There is no proper way to celebrate them; we just do. We even have a custom, in my family, of celebrating birthdays of people who have passed. It’s a cue we took from a book titled Having Our Say: The Delany Sisters’ First 100 Years (1994). The title is pretty self explanatory, but one thing I really liked in the book is the way those two sisters, Sadie and Bessie, remember those who have passed by celebrating the birthdays of those folks by preparing their favorite meals. And so we began doing that, too. We don’t do it every year for every birthday (sometimes it’s tough work making homemade pizza on Grandma’s birthday if you’ve been at work all day), but we do it as often as can. It is fitting, and it is good.

These are the celebrations of our own, and we all have them, you and me and everyone else.

Image: Millie & Johnny at the photographer’s studio on the occasion of their engagement. That was 1948.

 

Inspiration

Today is Pentecost, also known as White Sunday, or Whitsunday. We are fifty days past Easter, and this is the day marking the descent from above of the Holy Spirit. It has, for me, long been a day of pondering mysterious connexions concerning things of air, not earth. (Connexion, a little used spelling variant of connection… I feel that x, visually, at least, has a way of making these relationships between things more tangible; more so than ct… and I suppose that’s the typographer in me pondering even more.)

For Pentecost this year I offer a reprint of last year’s Convivio Book of Days chapter. I don’t think I can explain it any better this time around, and the message is still the same. And as always, I wish you inspired days.
––John

Inspiration

My very first Sunday Meeting at the 1794 Meeting House at Chosen Land, the Sabbathday Lake Shaker Community in Maine where I interned as a printer in the late 90s, happened to be on Pentecost Sunday. It was a blustery day, the sort of day when laundry left on the line to dry takes on a life of its own, the shirts and dresses and jeans dancing with each other as they catch the breeze and fill and empty of air and sunlight.

The Shaker Meeting House at Chosen Land is modest but beautiful in its simplicity. I entered on the left side, for this is the door through which the men enter. The women enter on the right. The room you enter into is large and uninterrupted by posts or columns; the roof is supported by boxed beams that span across the room. The walls are white plaster and the wooden beams and original benches are painted blue. The blue takes your breath away. It is the original milk paint, dyed with Maine wild blueberries, from 1794. The floor is wide plank wood. To look at it and to step upon it is to think of all the Shaker brothers and sisters who walked and danced and twirled upon it throughout its history. All these years later I still think of that wood floor and think of doing rubbings of it for a book project someday. History has seeped into every corner and crevice of this building, and this is the building I’d stepped into that First Sunday of Pentecost in 1996.

If you’ve never been to a Shaker Meeting (and chances are good, I realize, that you haven’t), here’s what happens: Sister June reads a prayer to open Meeting, then Sister Frances announces which set song will be sung from the Shaker Hymnal. There are three Bible readings. And then Brother Arnold will say a few words about their founder, Mother Ann Lee, and remind everyone to “not feel strange or a stranger.” And this is an invitation for spontaneous songs and testimonies. The songs are any of thousands of Shaker songs handed down orally through the years. And the testimonies are from the heart, inspired by the atmosphere of the Meeting.

Pentecost never meant much to me but it did after that day. Father Bob Limpert, an Episcopal minister from New York, was there, and the Shakers let him give a more formal sermon. Father Bob was inspired by that blustery day to talk about the relationships between words like gust and ghost and of course it was Pentecost, the day the Church celebrates the coming of the Holy Spirit… which, when I was a kid, was better known as the Holy Ghost. And here was this day of gusting wind ushering in holy ghosts of all kinds in this old building dripping with history: gust to ghost to spirit. And spirit brings us to inspiration.

And this always reminds me of one of my favorite professors from college, Myriam Swennen Ruthenberg, who, in an Italian Literature class, perhaps over Dante or Bocaccio or di Lampedusa, spoke one day of the connections between words, too. Her words that day were the Italian versions of respiration and inspiration and their common Latin root: spirare, breath. We breathe in and out in the act of respiration, but we also breathe in and out inspiration: we are inspired by what we take in, and what we exude or breathe out hopefully inspires others.

If you’ll follow along on my winding trail, these things all connect: the gust and ghost of Father Bob, the breathing in and out of Professoressa Ruthenberg. All are not so much of the earth as they are of the air (ghost/gust/spirit/breath/respiration/inspiration) and so they lack heaviness and instead are light and ethereal. Inspiration comes to us sometimes as fleeting as breath, a ghost seen just briefly from the corner of the eye.

Image: Taking a deep breath, crossing into the unknown. A 16th century engraving from the dust jacket of the book The Discoverers by Daniel J. Boorstin.

 

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Roses for Remembrance

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In Ancient Rome, this would be the time of the Rosalia, an annual festival in honor of the goddess Flora and the lovely rose, but also of the dead. Rosalia could in fact be celebrated at various times between May and July. But for most Romans May was its primary month and May 23 its usual day. To be sure, the Romans celebrated many festivals honoring Flora, who was a goddess of flowers and plants. These festivals were all in the spring and Rosalia was the last of them each year. The most important tradition associated with Rosalia was the decoration of graves with flowers, typically roses. Even then, roses and other flowers were symbols of rebirth and memory.

As for us, we come to Memorial Day soon (this coming Monday, as it so happens––about the earliest date it can be), a holiday rooted in the remembrance of those who died in service to their country. And so the two holidays, so distant from each other in history and in culture, speak the same language: the language of remembrance, the honoring of those who have passed. It is good and it is right to keep these folks in mind.

Image: Still Life, Roses Against a Blue Curtain by Pierre-Auguste Renoir. Oil on canvas, 1908 [Public domain] via Wikimedia Commons.