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Our Lady of Mount Carmel

July 16 brings the Feast of Our Lady of Mount Carmel and my mother’s name day––her Onomastico, in Italian. I will have to pull her earlobes today, as this is tradition for your Onomastico, at least according to Mom, though she does not remember why. Perhaps she never knew. Sometimes we just do what we do and don’t know why it’s done.

Be that as it may, July 16 and the Feast of Our Lady of Mount Carmel is, in fact, the name day for anyone called Carmela or any of the variants of the name: So, Buon Onomastico to all the Carmelas (spelled with one L or two), and to all the Camillas and Camilles, to all the Cammies, perhaps to all the Camerons, and to all the Millies, which is the name Mom typically goes by, and the name for which you know her best: she is the Millie in Millie’s Tea Towels, the hand-embroidered tea towels she makes that we sell here at the shop and on our website. I always assume it’s a good day to enjoy caramels, too, only because I don’t know how many years it took me, as a young boy, to grasp the difference between the words Carmel and Caramel. And perhaps it is a good day to be in Carmel-by-the-Sea in California.

What Mom remembers most about her name day is the feast in her old Brooklyn neighborhood: a feast that went on for many days each mid-July in honor of Our Lady of Mount Carmel, and still does to this day. Sausage & pepper sandwiches, fried zeppole, elaborate towers carried on the shoulders of strong men… mostly Mom remembers admiring the cute boys in the bands who played the old Italian songs.

I will also ask that you pray or put good energy into the universe on behalf of Mom: she had a fall a week ago and while she didn’t seem hurt at the time, she’s been having a good deal of trouble walking since. She’s been to the ER and there were X-rays, and she’s been to an orthopedic doctor and there is physical therapy to come, but not for another week, probably, which seems to us a long time to wait to get better when you’re 99, but maybe this is the state of medical care in the US these days? Today we got Mom a pedaling device she can use in her chair so her legs get some motion, at least. She has pedaled diligently twice tonight since the device arrived. And I’ve been here at the old family home helping out as much as I can. My sister and I help her get about, and we are working our best on getting Mom back to her old self again.

Other than that, she feels fine. A present arrived for her yesterday in the mail from a family friend, Joseph, in her old neighborhood. He sent her a scapular for Our Lady of Mount Carmel: a little devotional worn around the neck. And there Mom is, in the photo above, wearing her new scapular. She wore it all day when it arrived yesterday, and she wore it to bed, and she is wearing it now as I type this. Thank you, Joseph; your gift means a lot to her.

Each day brings a different Onomastico. Mine was just a few weeks ago, at Midsummer: St. John’s Day on June 24. No one wished me a buon Onomastico that day, but it’s ok. I’m not holding any grudges.

NEW SUMMER WORKSHOPS
We have two new workshops posted to our website at the WORKSHOPS page! The first is a new Convivio Cookery workshop: Ricotta Gnocchi, set for Saturday August 15, 2026. (That’s my Grandma Assunta’s birthday and she would love that we are teaching you how to make homemade pasta that day!) We’ll teach you how to make a lighter gnocchi; this recipe is from Grandma’s friend, Adeline, and it skips the heavy potatoes and instead uses fresh ricotta in the dough: a delicious and much lighter alternative.

The second workshop, in September, is a writing workshop that I am definitely participating in: True Stories Cleverly Told: Exploring Creative Nonfiction for Narrative, Essay, & Memoir with writer and literary agent Cricket Freeman, on Saturday September 19. Cricket is one of our favorite people in the literary world. You will learn a lot about writing and get a solid critique of your earlier work, should you wish to bring an example to class. The writing workshop is a full-day class that includes a delicious box lunch from one of our favorite local spots, Aioli in West Palm Beach. Class limit in each workshop is 8 people. Either workshop would make a fine onomastico present! Or a good day out of any sort for you and your friends or family.

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Buon Onomastico to Mom and All the Carmelas

If there are Carmelas in your life––and there may be even if you don’t realize it––today is their name day, their Onomastico, as we say in Italian, for July 16 brings the Feast of Our Lady of Mount Carmel. It’s my mom’s name day today. She was named Carmela, after her grandmother, but we only hear her answer to that at the dentist’s office or doctor’s office. Usually she goes by Millie, and when I say you may not even realize you have a Carmela in your life, this is why: there are so many variants of the name. You might have a Millie, like I do, or you might have a Cammie or a Camille. My dad would sometimes call Mom “Mildred,” which was usually as a joke, but then (go figure) he actually put “Mildred” on his retirement plan papers at work.

Of course you know Mom from Millie’s Tea Towels, her hand-embroidered tea towels that we sell here at the shop. That’s the name she’s gone by all her life, 98 years now. But she is named for her grandmother, Maria Carmela Giuseppa Esposito, who in turn was named for her grandmother, who was not a blood relative, but simply the kind woman who, in 1834, found and adopted an abandoned infant boy. That Maria Carmela Esposito raised the boy as her own, and called him Moses, for she found him in a basket, covered in leaves and rags, just as the Moses in the Old Testament was found in a basket by Pharaoh’s daughter. That Moses is my grandfather’s grandfather, and these are the stories I find so fascinating in family history. The adoption papers filed with the Comune di Lucera, our ancestral city in Apulia, even mention the leaves and rags. Life was slower in 1834; there was time, I imagine, to note such poetic details on official documents.

As for Mom, what she remembers most about her name day is the feast in her old Brooklyn neighborhood: a feast that went on for many days each mid-July in honor of Our Lady of Mount Carmel, and still does to this day. Sausage & pepper sandwiches, fried zeppole, elaborate towers carried on the shoulders of strong men… mostly Mom remembers admiring the cute boys in the bands who played the old Italian songs.

Your Onomastico is today, then, too, if you are a Carmela or any of its variants. Each day brings a different Onomastico. But if your name is Hunter, or Chase, or Parker, or Jayden… well, I think you’re out of luck. My Onomastico was just a few weeks ago, at Midsummer: St. John’s Day on June 24. Mom told me that day that she had to pull my earlobes. She didn’t remember why. Do any of you know why? If so, let me know. I’ll pass the information along to Mom… right after I pull her ears.

COME SEE US AT THE SHOP!
We’ve got Kim Spivey teaching a new session of Collagraph Printmaking on Sunday July 27. Kim’s a great teacher and this is a wonderful class… it’s the second time she’s teaching it for us this year. The workshop would make a wonderful Onomastico present (or fun thing to do for any reason) for yourself and your friends and family. Come learn something new!

 

Image: a Happy Name Day postcard from Italy, circa 1940s. 

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St. Swithin & Our Lady of Mount Carmel

I heard my first cicada song early Tuesday morning: one sole insect, somewhere in the stands of bamboo in the yard, making that raspy sound that cicadas make. It’s mid-July. The days here in Lake Worth are hot and languid; the nights are, too, and the cicadas will grow in number these next few weeks and their chorus will grow louder and louder. This is high summer in Florida, and if the season had backing music and a soundtrack, the cicadas would be the orchestra performing it.

We’ve been in the midst of a relentless heat wave, with highs each day in the 90s, and let me tell you: there is a big difference between 89˚ and 93˚. One is bearable; the other, much less so. But it’s also our rainy season, and an evening thunderstorm rolling through will make for a rain-cooled night and that can make life so much lighter here.

A bit of rain is generally a daily constant here this time of year. And now it is the Fifteenth of July, which brings a traditional weather marker that you’d think originated here in this dripping green land, but no, it’s from England. It’s St. Swithin’s Day, and this is how the story goes: St. Swithin’s Day if thou dost rain, For forty days it will remain; St. Swithin’s Day if thou be fair, For forty days ’twill rain nae mair.

St. Swithin is known as the weeping saint. He was a 9th century Anglo-Saxon bishop of Winchester. The source of his weeping comes from after his earthly life, for it was the good bishop’s wish to be buried in the churchyard and not in the chancel of the church, as was the custom for bishops. His wishes were followed when he died, but upon his canonization, the monks there decided the open churchyard was a rather disgraceful place for a saint to be buried, and so on the 15th of July in 971, they planned to move the relics of St. Swithin indoors to the choir, in a solemn procession. A great downpour began during the procession, though, and continued for forty days. The monks took this is a sign from St. Swithin himself, and so they let him be there in the churchyard, although they did eventually erect a chapel over his grave.

It’s not necessarily forty days of constant rain that one might expect. Poor Robin’s Almanack, in July 1697, tells us:

In this month is St Swithin’s Day;
On which, if that it rain, they say
Full forty days after it will,
Or more or less, some rain distill.

Which sounds very much like our South Florida weather this time of year, with our more-or-less daily dose of thunderstorms. John Gay, too, in his poem “Trivia,”  gives mention to the saint and legend:

How, if on Swithin’s Feast the welkin hours,
And every penthouse streams with hasty showers,
Twice twenty days shall clouds their fleeces drain,
And wash the pavements with incessant rain.

And those who grow apples love St. Swithin, too, for, they say, he blesses their crops with his tears. And just as St. Swithin fits nicely into our local weather patterns here in Florida, there is some truth, it is said, to the weather lore in the UK for St. Swithin’s Day, too, for the jet stream over Britain tends to follow a regular pattern at this time of year, dictating the weather patterns for the next five to six weeks. Should the jet stream lie north of Britain, the weather will typically be clear and mild. Should the jet stream lie across or south of Britain, stormy weather may be expected as rain moves in from the Atlantic. Five or six weeks of the latter pattern would easily measure out to forty days of “some rain distill”––not nearly as poetic as “wash the pavements with incessant rain,” but lovely all the same (if you, too, are fond of rainy days).

The following day, July 16, will bring the Feast of Our Lady of Mount Carmel. The day is sacred to Chile. It is my mother’s name day, her onomastico, as we say in Italian. My grandparents gave her the name Carmela, in honor of her grandmother, Maria Carmela Giuseppa Esposito, who in turn was named for her own grandmother, who was not a blood relative, but simply the kind woman who, in 1834, found and adopted an abandoned infant boy. That Maria Esposito raised the boy as her own, and called him Moses, for she found him in a basket, covered in leaves and rags, just as the Moses in the Old Testament was found in a basket by Pharaoh’s daughter. But now I’m getting really off course in my storytelling. You know my mother as Millie: she is the Millie who hand-embroiders Millie’s Tea Towels. What Mom remembers most about her name day is the feast in her old Brooklyn neighborhood: a feast that went on for many days each mid-July in honor of Our Lady of Mount Carmel, and still does to this day. Sausage & onion sandwiches, fried zeppole, elaborate towers carried on the shoulders of strong men… mostly Mom remembers admiring the cute boys in the bands who played the old Italian songs.

SUMMER HIGH FIVE SALE!
That’s Mom there in the fishing boat, inviting you to our simple summer sale: Enjoy $5 off your order of $35 or more when you use discount code HIGH5 at checkout. Take it to $75 and you’ll earn free domestic shipping, too. Use the deal on Millie’s Tea Towels or on anything else in the shop. Click here to shop!

Enjoy your summer!

Top image: “Rain” by Vincent Van Gogh. Oil on canvas, 1889. Philadelphia Museum of Art. [Public domain] via Wikimedia Commons. Bottom image: My mom, Millie, in a fishing boat on a lake in Brooklyn, circa 1950.